Reframing Networking: From Fear to Authentic Connection

Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Charity Feb for her video interview series to talk all about networking. We had a fantastic time chatting about how my perspective on networking has evolved over the years—especially the shift from networking as an employee to networking as a business owner.

Early in my career, imposter syndrome held me back. The idea of “putting myself out there” felt intimidating and uncomfortable. I never felt like I had anything to contribute to a conversation. But over time, my view of networking shifted.
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One of the biggest mindset changes for me came from reading "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazzi. That book truly changed how I approached networking. If you haven’t read it, check it out at your local library or buy a copy from your local bookstore—there are so many valuable insights in those pages. ​

What Networking Means to Me Now

Today, networking isn’t about making a pitch or collecting business cards—it’s about building authentic relationships. It’s an opportunity to get to know people as people, not just their job titles or businesses.
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When I started my business, I found myself needing help with everything—studio space, graphic design, printing, branding, you name it. Thankfully, through earlier networking efforts, I already had some great connections. And now, I’ve grown my network even more and can easily refer others to trusted professionals. That’s an incredibly empowering and fulfilling feeling.

Tips for the Networking-Nervous

During our chat, Charity asked me to share advice for those who might feel anxious about networking or unsure of where to start. My biggest tip? Redefine what networking means to you. Think of it as simply meeting new people and being curious about them.

Start in places where you naturally have something in common with others. Some great starting points:

• Volunteering for a cause you care about
• Church, temple, or other community gatherings
• Your kids’ sports or school events—connect with other parents
• Adult sports leagues or dance classes
• Continuing education or professional development classes
  
  

Networking doesn’t always happen at a “networking event.” Sometimes, it’s just about staying open and curious wherever you are.

A Couple of Networking Wins

Charity also asked me to share a couple of recent networking success stories.

At a recent Vancouver Chamber Business After Hours event, I struck up a casual conversation with someone who was attending for the first time. We chatted about the event, LinkedIn, and life in general. Before she left, we connected on LinkedIn—and about a week later, she reached out for more information about my headshot sessions!

Another great moment came at a Ridgefield Chamber Coffee Connections meetup. These events are super low-key—they take place at a cozy coffee shop and feature a round-robin of introductions (name, business, and an icebreaker question). I met a local website developer and grabbed their card. The very next week, I ran into someone else whose web developer had ghosted him mid-project. I was able to make an instant connection between the two. That’s the power of building community through networking.

To watch the full conversation with Charity, check it out here on YouTube:
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What are your favorite networking tips or success stories? I’d love to hear them!


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